Weight Loss – Struggles and Lifestyle Changes

The first adventure I’m wanting to document (as it will be an ongoing process) is the weight loss journey that my wife and I are currently on. Now, I know a lot of people deal with this on a daily basis, and this may seem redundant to some, but I want to share our experiences.

In my 29 years weight has fluctuated a lot. From being sickly skinny as a child, overweight through puberty, the best shape of my life in college, and hitting obesity after a few years into marriage, I’ve gone through a lot of the challenges.

My weight gain has never been glaringly obvious, thanks to being over 6 feet tall and distributing my weight fairly evenly, but my insecurities always have been. I despise going to public beaches, will only go swimming at my in-laws house if I know for a fact no one else will show up, and refuse to be seen without a shirt on except by my wife. I wear compression shirts every single day, which began as a way to feel better about myself, but now is a security blanket (as I don’t really need them any longer).

My wife and I have gone back and forth a lot over the years. Starting at a great weight, gaining, losing it, gaining it all back plus some. It was a vicious cycle that ate away at us emotionally, physically and financially (clothes!). About 3 years ago we started making some pretty significant changes that seemed small at the time. We made a few changes to our diets a little at a time that have probably kept us from being way heavier than we got. The biggest change is that we started to purchase all of our meat from the local butcher. Buy it all in bulk, portion it out and freeze it for 6-12 months at a time. Financially, huge success. Health wise? Definitely made a difference.

But we still let ourselves go again and gained the weight back. Because our lives started to get hectic we were eating a lot of processed garbage. That’s the key word. It’s just garbage. A lot of carbs, a lot of eating fast food. Nothing that was helping us nutritionally. Just empty calories that were making us feel lethargic and unable to keep up with our kids.

I never let myself get too far gone, but I did let it get out of hand. It wasn’t until my first Spartan race last year that I realized just how out of shape I was. Finishing pretty much dead last in a race when you’re only 28 is not a good feeling. I felt accomplished, but not great.

But that wasn’t the trigger just yet.

April 25th of this year I suddenly realized that I had 2 more Spartan races coming up within the next 2.5 months. And the pain and exhaustion from last year’s race hit me hard. I was out of breath just thinking about doing another race.

So I told my wife enough was enough. There’s no reason for it. We don’t eat unhealthy anymore (occasionally..), it’s just our lack of exercise. Pure laziness and overeating.


I weighed myself that morning at my heaviest recorded weight of 249 pounds. Oi!

1 pound away from being 1/4 of 1/2 ton. No way. I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t be that person. 29 with 3 very active kids, and out of breath thinking about doing any activity.

So I grabbed my FitBit (which had been on the fireplace for months) and got to it.


Fortunately the first week gave me all the additional motivation I needed.

Here’s my current weekly weight loss since April 25th, 2017:

April 25th (starting weight) – 249.0

April 30th – 238.3

May 7th – 233.2

May 14th – 230.1

May 21st – 228.0

May 28th – 225.4

June 4th – 222.8

June 11th – 219.4

June 18th – 220.0

June 25th – 218.3

July 2nd – 217.6

July 9th – 217.5

July 16th – 216.7

32.3 pounds lost in 82 days. That’s 14.48% of my starting body weight!

And I feel great. In fact, I feel pretty incredible. My energy levels are through the roof, I’m eating healthier, and I’m an all around happier person.

Now, according to my doctor on May 31st (I went in for a checkup to make sure the weight loss was healthy since it came off so quickly), he told me I only needed to lose about 10-15 more pounds.

My goal is to be down to 186. My doctor, wife, and everyone else I talk to tell me that’s crazy and because of my height I will look too small at that weight. They also tell me I look great right where I’m at now.

I feel good now, but I still have my insecurities. I’m technically down 3 (!) pant sizes, and have dropped from an xl to a large shirt. But I don’t wear them just yet because I’m still not comfortable in them. Physically they look okay, but on the inside I’m very self conscious and not ready. I think once I hit the 200 mark I will feel good and things will fit the way I want them to. It’s going to be such an amazing feeling to no longer see my weight start with a “2”.


As you can see from the weigh-ins above things have started to slow down. I have been training for the Spartan races which are now finished. But the week prior to each race I was taking it easy to prevent injury, and the weeks after I recovered (and trust me I needed it).

So my Spartan race last year, like I said above, I came in almost last place (99.12% overall). This year I did the June race and finished 71.90%, and the July race last weekend I finished 67.21%. I think the numbers speak for themselves that it’s working. I feel amazing and incredibly accomplished to have made so much progress over last year. That’s even with injuries (sprained foot, cracked ribs, and a LOT of bruising).

Spartan – July 2016
Spartan – June 2017
Spartan – June 2017

These past few weeks have also been busy again so the dieting and exercising have not been priority. But that has to change before things fall back.

That’s the struggle with weight loss. It’s not a one and done thing. It is a lifestyle change. It’s a lifetime commitment that you have to always be conscious about.

When we initially planned our trip for Disney World next year it was planned around the food. Seriously! But how far that has changed already. Now the food is at the bottom of our wish lists. We just want to make sure we are making healthy choices during a great vacation.

Paying attention to what you are eating and what is in those foods (calories, nutrients, etc.) I believe is the most important part of any weight journey. Gaining, maintaining or losing. You don’t really think about all the junk that we consume. A lot of people will argue that you only live once, might as well enjoy it to your fullest and eat/drink what you want. I would say the same but argue that live it to your fullest by making healthy, delicious choices and live a much happier, healthier life. I couldn’t fathom the thought of not being able to keep up with my kids. I want to be there with them, BESIDE them, through everything. Not trailing behind.

Cooking at home is huge too, as you can control what exactly you put in, and how much you are putting on your plate. Some days it’s a struggle to find the time, but it’s always worth it in the end.

This is a journey that I am going to be on for the rest of my life. I have more weight to lose, I will more than likely gain some of that back, but I feel now I am more in control.

What are some of your weight loss, maintain, gain stories and struggles? Feedback, comments, concerns, tips and tricks, support? Favorite healthy foods, snacks and drinks?

I would love to hear from everyone!

“I’m not losing weight, I’m getting rid of it! I have no intention of finding it again.”


2 Comments Add yours

  1. swosei12blog says:

    Although I am not “overweight”, I do not feel comfortable in my own skin. You are totally right that getting rid of weight is a complete lifestyle change. I wanted to be 10-15 pounds lighter by this time but I reverted back to some old bad habits. Good luck on your journey.


  2. Congrats on your lifestyle change a success! I put on 80 pounds after I left the Navy. I yo-yo dieted for years. Finally I figured out that most diets work in the short term and most diets fail overtime. Once I realized that calories play a role but hormones control every system in the human body, things finally changed for good. I looked at ways to get my insulin levels down (controls fat storage) through diet, intermittent fasting, sleep, and exercise, I have gotten below my Navy days body fat percentage and feel great!


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