What’s In A Name? A Reminder of Where I Came From And Where I Want To Go

Community, Dinner, Family, God, Jesus, Life, love, Neighbor, religion

When I created this blog over 4 years ago I was in a place in my life where the only thing I wanted was solitude for my immediate family of 5. This blog was created to be about OUR little infinity. I had shut the rest of the world out and was focused on my wants. My needs.

But I’ve come to realize that “our” is a relative term. It does not have to be about my wife and I, or a family of 5. And I’m so glad that it is not that way! I am so grateful that I am no longer the person that I once was.

I’ve thought about going through the process of changing the blog name. I know the steps that need to be made to switch the domain name, how to change the authors, etc. But I don’t want to any longer. As I have mentioned in a post on my Facebook, my past is what has brought me to be where I am and the person I have become. And I want to embrace my past, the pain and all.


Let’s break this out and over-analyze, shall we?

Table For Five. Today, this means I am setting a hard limit on the number of people I let into my life. I am closing myself off from the world, putting up walls and telling others that if you don’t belong in my small group, you’ll never get to know me. The only people allowed to sit at my table are my wife and children.

That’s not who I want to be! Not anymore. Not ever again! As I’ve mentioned before, we are planning on moving before year end. One of the biggest reasons that I now want to move is because I do not physically have the space in my own home to be able to have people over. I want my new home to be a safe haven for others. I want it to be a second home to my loved ones. I want it to be open to my neighbors. I can promise you now that other people will have keys to my home. Where you don’t have to knock to enter. Where you will always be welcomed.

I want to be surrounded by loved ones every day. I want to share meals all the time.


One of my absolute favorite things that I get the privilege of doing is having dinner with my best friends and their family once a week. Every week, aside from times of sickness, we prioritize sitting down and breaking bread together.

And my favorite thing about it is that when we all sit down together there is not a division in families. If you ever watch us together, we do not separate. The adults do not sit apart from the children, spouses do not pair off and stay right by one another. We come together as one. And my heart is so full being able to speak to every single one of them individually as if we have known each other our entire lives.

And it’s something I want to be surrounded by. I want to just give so much love. I want to have plans every night of being with loved ones. I want to build relationships. I want to share the love of Jesus.

I don’t want a table for five. I want a table for fifty.


I am this new person now and all I want to do is just give my love to others. And it’s such a weird feeling to me because just a few months ago I was so closed off to the world. But now my eyes, and my heart, have been opened.

Love creates such beautiful transformations.


Our Little Infinity.

How naive I was to believe that my life, and the life my family had, was from my own doing. That I had a right to claim it as my own. To take possession of “our” little infinity.

Our little infinity is so much greater than I could have ever imagined. To have the love of God, to be a follower of Jesus. To be given eternal life. Oh how it just opens the doors to so much beauty and joy.

We have a life that has been blessed upon us, and we get the honor of sharing this with others. “Our” grows from five to a community of so many.

Our little infinity now means the life I get to share with my community for the time I am alive. And what an amazing thing that is.

I am brimming with love. And compassion. And joy. And happiness. Oh, my heart has never felt this way before and I never want it to change.


I’m eager to make this transition into our new home and begin sharing my life with those around me. Please fill my life with love. Let us share a meal together. Let’s go for a walk. Let’s cry together. Let’s pray together! Let’s just be together, with love in our hearts. It doesn’t have to be a special occasion.

And for those who already welcome me into their homes, you are a big reason why I strive to be a better person. I hope these meetings happen often as it is easily one of my favorite moments each week and something I look forward to.

My family of five is no longer. It has grown and I am so blessed.


“Dear God,

Oh how You have made Your presence known in my life! I see You all around me. I stop and notice the amazing things You have done in this world that we take for granted on a daily basis.

I recognize Your blessings and I cherish them!

My heart has been opened because You worked through others to bring me back to You. I see You in their eyes. I hear You in their voice. I feel You in their hugs.

Today I want to thank You for everything in my life. I know You are not responsible for the bad, but know You never left my side through them. You allowed me to try to do things on my own, and were always there to catch me when I fell. And You have forgiven me through them all.

How loving You are. That You would sacrifice so much to allow me be here, as significant and small as I have felt in the past.

I pray that You allow me to share my love with all those who are willing to accept it. I want to bring love and happiness to others lives, as You have done for me.

I pray to be blessed with a table for so many! That I can serve others and give them a place to rest their feet and their hearts. To give others a second home and a place to feel safe and loved.

I thank You again, as I will likely do every day, for bringing loved ones to my life. Those who make me be a better person. Who make me feel so incredibly welcomed.

I pray that You continue to be there for those who are in pain this evening, and that You may grant them peace and serenity.

I thank You for everything You have blessed my life with. You have given me so much and I am eager to give back in any way I can.

Thank You for opening my eyes and my heart.

Amen.


A fair warning before I end this post this evening, I am making an effort to express my feelings every chance I get. We are not promised tomorrow, and if today happened to be my last I don’t want anyone to ever question how I felt about them. So, I will tell you I love you. Often. Because love is such a beautiful thing, and just being told that you are loved, in my experience, just makes everything so perfect. And hugs are one of my new favorite things. Not little ones, though. Long, full embraces are the best. ☺️

So, with that said, I love you! If you are reading this post it is because you are someone I care about and wanted to be a part of my life.

Kyle

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Growing Our Faith

Books, Family, Life

This post is all about religion. I will not apologize for it, I will not be ashamed of talking about it. If you do not wish to read it then don’t, but you will be missing out.

It’s been a little over a month now since we, as a family, decided there was a void in our lives. Our children were aware of religion, but could not tell us the importance of it. What is the meaning of Christmas? Why do we attend church? Who is God and Jesus? While simple questions to some, our children couldn’t answer correctly. We were failing our children by not introducing them to such an important facet of life. I will not force my children to believe or not believe, but I will present them with all of the tools and resources to make their own choices and decisions.

I will be the first to admit that there are several parts of the bible that I have a hard time accepting, or that I disagree with. But I know I am allowed to hold these beliefs for my relationship with God is between him and I alone. I put my life in his hands.

So we have attended church together as a family. My girls sang along to the hymnals as if they knew the words all along. My son sat patiently throughout the service without causing a scene. We also attended service as just a husband and wife. And each time we have attended we have both felt personally that they were speaking to us directly. The words resonated with us and we were pulled in further.

This is what we have needed in our lives.

We needed something bigger than ourselves to believe in. Something that can overshadow the little things that don’t really matter. Something we can give ourselves to, as a family, as a father, and a mother, as a spouse, as a brother, as a sister. We are putting our lives in His hands.

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And our faith has been tested already in a way we never could have dreamed about. It was a hard reminder that there is wickedness all around us, every day, in places you never could imagine.

And my wife said it best. SHE told ME that she has never felt like God was speaking to her so loudly, screaming from the Heavens, to set our lives back on track. To remind us that He is here for us. Always, through everything. He will get us through any difficult times.

So we put our trust in Him and we are growing our faith. Together.


We went out and purchased bibles for everyone in our household. My wife and I decided that we would read the same passages each day and discuss our thoughts and opinions. “Read through the bible, together, in one year.”

And the VERY FIRST DAY these are the words we read:

PSALM 1:

5. Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.

6. For the LORD knoweth the way of the righteous: but the way of the ungodly shall perish.

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Wow. The very first day we read together and these are the words that are shown to us. Coincidence? I think not. He knows what we need and what we need to hear.

And my wife, who I have always questioned her thoughts on religion, approaches me and wants to put our lives and marriage in God’s hands. And to be a marriage under Him.

I am so blessed in life. To know that even through the darkest times I have people by my side. And above all else, I have God to guide me through the pain.

I am glad to finally be on this path in life. And I am so glad to be doing this together as a family, with the love of my life, and my beautiful children. And to be an example to our children and be role models, and have someone to look up to.

God Bless ALL. Each and every one of you.

I pray for you. I pray that He can cleanse your heart and your mind. I pray that He will speak to you and touch your life like He has ours.

K~